So we developed a system. Me and my systems...we gave Shi a chart that had cute little index cards we decorated with morning routines, and in my delirium from the idea that mornings would be better immediately, I decided to make our school afternoons better too...well to all of our surprise it worked! The most stubborn little boy in the world learned not only how to get himself ready for school in the morning, but he also knew what we expected him to do in the afternoons as well. Each card was presented in order of what he should do, and they were specific. He went to his chart did the task, then put it in the done(good job!) pocket. The catch (or the deal) was that he had to have all these things done as soon as he got up
Still, a year later-even without this chart-he gets himself ready every morning. And usually has enough playtime to give him a great start to the day. Rather than the stressful rush off to school that no one likes.
We have recently started him on allowance and decided we need a new chart to implement. Now he's a bit older and more mature he can handle more, naturally.
Shi loves it because he can see what he's accomplished every day. It's just a fun and gentle reminder of what he needs to do. We also got him some new sheets for his room to help boost the confidence and as a big start to his new responsibilities.
A friend of mine has two little girls that we having trouble getting up in the morning. I told her we used to have the same problem, and now it's gone. Her driving force with the girls? They love wearing skirts and dresses to school, and if they don't get up/ready in the mornings like expected, then they can't wear their skirts. I love it! I am all about this parenting style. Our kids are capable of being more self-sufficient, we just have to stop enabling them, and babying them.